The time has finally arrived...I'm in deep love with a man who I can't get enough of. To the naked eye he may seem rugged, quiet and handsome, kind of like Khal Drogo from Game Of Thrones. See the resemblance? Cuz I do! Look at those smoldering eyes!
But to my eye, he's sweet, attentive, loving, honest, ambitious, funny, kind and of course handsome.
For me, meeting him and falling in love with Damian was as fast and natural as a Jewish grandmother saying "Oh a nice Jewish boy" when they hear that someone has the last name of Goldberg or Silverman.
Anyways, here's how it all went down.
On June 1st 2017, we had our first date! How did we meet you ask? The only way millennials know how to meet new people these days...it was on #Bumble. The funny thing is, is that I had swiped on him once before and we matched...but we never made any plans to meet. So, naturally I deleted Bumble from my phone after there wasn't success for a while but seceded and re-downloaded the crack that is dating apps. I found myself pausing the second time he showed up on my screen. I thought, "well, if I swipe on him again now, how will it be different than the first time? Will he ask me out?" and as I was about to left swipe him, I decided, "Well, why not? What's the worst that can happen" and swiped that thumb to the right.
Almost immediately after our first "well hello again" type message, he asked me out. He decided the place and we agreed on a date and time to meet there.
That week wasn't the best for me as far as dates go. I had 3 lined up. Dates 1 and 3 turned out to be tooooo feminine for me. And then Damian came along. A rugged man who drove a truck and worked with his hands and tools but as we met up for the first time, his eyes are what really caught me off guard. They were so striking and kind and gentle and soft that I couldn't stop looking into them. He wasn't too much of a talker that first date but he tells now, he loved me since day 1.
*Can you hear the "awwwww"'s in the background?*
Anyways, date two and three came quickly after and by date 4, I had met his family. Soon after, he met mine and we were on a roll.
P.S. Date 3 was a movie and dinner. By now, we had been on three dates in three days. We had talked about almost everything at that point, including our favorite candy bars. I had told him on date 2 that I loved 3 musketeers bars and when I showed up for date 3, there was quite a large "bulge" in his pocked and I had to ask if he was just happy to see me...the answer was yes but also, there was a king sized 3 Musketeers bar in his pocket he wanted to give me. Since then, he's giving me a 3 Musketeers bar with little messages on it and it's the cutest thing ever.
Anyways I realized I loved him pretty early on but didn't want to scare him off. It was one month after we met on July 2nd. I had just closed on my condo and he had taken his Saturday (July 1st) to help me paint my place...but I did the bedroom. Anyways, I wanted to get the painting done on the 1st so I could move on to the next renovation but we couldn't do the whole thing in one day. So we planned to take the 2nd to finish the painting. The only problem is that I worked all day Sunday so the plan was to meet up after 5 at my place to finish up the painting. As I stepped inside my place I realized that not only had Damian painted the rest of the condo, but he had gotten flowers, a "You Did It" balloon and had been there all day. That's when I knew that this guy was the one for me. The tears started to well up in my eyes and I tried every trick in the book to not cry in front of him. I was so thankful and appreciative and overwhelmed with love and I didn't know what to do but keep saying thank you!
It wasn't too long after that that we became FB official and just a month later, we told each other we were in love. That was my first time. And since then the feelings have only gotten stronger.
Come September, we went on our first trip together to Mexico on a cruise ship. That was his first time cruising and he fell in love so that's "our thing" now....only cruising.
We like the lux #WeFancy.
At that point I had been mostly staying at his place and his roommate was moving out so we decided it would be best for everyone if I moved in. That's right...5 months into the relationship we started officially living together and it's been amazing. No more trips back and forth for clothes, no more trying to figure out who would be staying where, no more food going bad and no more "your place my place"...it's just ours now. Not to mention that we are learning more and more about each other and I couldn't be more thrilled with how compatible we are.
If you would have asked me 7 months ago, before I met Damian, if I believed I would ever be "In Love" I would have said "maybe, but not for a long time". I didn't understand how my grandparents met, fell in love, and tied the knot all in a matter of 5 months. I didn't understand that it's not as scary as we're told if someone is on the same page as you. I didn't understand that letting someone in was so rewarding and so humbling and so amazing all at the same time. I didn't understand that there was someone out there who would love the things I love, and even if he doesn't actually love a certain thing, he tries really really hard (i.e. trying lox for the first time knowing that he'll hate it because he hates fish or playing poker with a group of people he doesn't know each month).
I honestly can't say enough about this man. In my previous posts, I asked for effort, honesty, communication, humor and a lot more and I can truly say, he's fulfilled every last hope I had for my future partner in crime.
Now, I'm not writing this to brag or boast or throw it in anyone's face. I'm writing this to show it's possible and it's out there and it exists but it also has taken, and will continue to take effort, on both ends. Be open! Don't give up if you know it's right. I do believe in timing and fate though so it may take a while but it'll happen when you're ready. I had to go through a lot of frogs to get to my Warlord Khal Drogo.
***My grandparent's on their wedding day. We miss you Bubby.***
